So this last and most recent episode ofmy coming out occurred exactly 2 weeks ago. It was homecoming night. The game not the dance, I had a date(girl) for the dance but as for the actual game I felt no obligation to go. So I made plans with Duke since almost all of my friends were at the football game.
Duke met me at my house and I told my parents, who didn’t know about me and Duke at the time that we were going to go to the football game. I figured I would tell them the game so it would make them seem less suspicious of this new guy in my life.Big Mistake.
Duke and I had a wonderful night. We went out to my favorite restaurant where we sat outside even though it was chilly and it was awesome. We made jokes, laughed, played footsie, all that normal couple stuff that I longed for.
Following dinner we decided to go see a movie. Duke really wanted to see the movie 50/50 so thats what we saw. We sat in the back of the theater so we could hold hands without to many people judging. The movie was great! It’s about this guy that gets cancer and the movie goes through the process of chemotherapy and such. It was very real, the movie had no super exaggerated soppy scene or anything but it still captured the events of cancer very well. Throughout the whole movie, once the lights went out we actually were able to pull up the armrest and cuddle a little. It was sweet and not to much PDA I think. Duke even cried a little which I think is the sweetest thing ever. Overall good movie.
After the movie we go out to my car where my phone getsservice all of a sudden with all of these missed calls and texts from my parent wanting me to come home. We rushed home said goodbye and Iwent inside.
My parents where sitting together asking me what I did. “Me and Duke went to the football game and left before the 4th quarter” and they said “Oh really? Sister (I’ll find a name for her later) didn’t see you there.” I told them Sister must’ve not seen me or something so they asked me the score. I had a friend text me the updates to the game he told me that after the 4th quarter it was 7-0. So I told them 7-0, they asked what team was winning. Our team was playing a team that has been known to be leagues better than ours so I said the other team. I was wrong.
My parents then asked what I was really doing. I didn’t want to tell them. So then they started to ground me, taking away car, phone, computer, and friend privileges. I couldn’t take it I couldn’t stand going down for lying about something so harmless. So I went upstairs and considered my options.
I decided I went downstairs to my mom who asked me why I did it. I spent about 20 long aching minutes trying to get the words out “I’m gay.” at first she asked how long I knew and some other questions I didn’t really enjoy but eventually she came up and told me she loved me no matter what. I was still a bit torn that night feeling forced to come out to her but over time I see the good of it.
My mom told me that, there was a lot of adjusting to do mentally. She told me that I am going to face a lot of adversity, I told her that I know and I’ll be strong enough to handle it. She has first hand witnessed the bad things that can happen to gay people as her gay best friend was murdered. No joke. We hugged, I was tired she was tired. She asked if she could tell my father, I said yes we went to bed.
Today actually my parents pulled me aside for an after talk about 20 minutes ago. They told me that I should just be weary of the gay culture in my area and in college and to stay safe. There is truth in that but, I told them I am strong and will be able to make the right decision when the time comes.
That marks the end. At least for now. Thanks guys for commenting!!
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