Here’s a tough subject that I now have real experience with, breaking up. Today Duke broke things off between us, because things were getting too serious. In a way I agreed. It’s hard to go through this. I wish things could’ve turned out differently and we were still together. To be single all over again still missing that special someone. Duke said he still wants to be friends so hopefully that will pan out alright. In the meantime, I’m just going to have to be strong. Breaks are funny in a way, they make you reconsider many things. Hopefully, I can channel all of this bad energy into my swimming sections is coming up and I have to swim on thursday and saturday.
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Ouch! I don’t think anyone has words to stop this from hurting. Especially for gay guys since it takes so long in your life to even imagine you can have a relationship and then it seems so magical when you are ready for it and you actually find a guy you can love and who loves you back.
I hope you can keep your positive attitude and maybe keep your friendship with Duke and avoid the whole ‘rebound syndrome’. Think of all the good things you have going in your life, and all the things you learned and gained through your relationship with Duke. You now know you can do it, and, believe me, there are lots of great guys out there who are relationship material and are looking for an Andrew. So take your time, blast the doors off those swim meets, and keep moving forward.
Thanks, I hope it starts to feel better don’t worry about rebound syndrome though. I can’t even fathom how I would fall into that. I’m so thankful for the experiences with Duke thanks for reminding me!
Aw man, that’s too bad. I know, a platitude. Sorry. I am sure this hurts. I remember my last breakup like it was yesterday. I hope the good things with Duke outweigh the bad, and yes, you can remain friends.
You’ve been lucky, lots of guys your age and gay go a long time before they find anyone, so look upon your time with Duke as special, and don’t let bad energy take over.
Swim well, wish I could be there to cheer you on! And for heaven’s sake, around a swim meet, at least there are plenty of hot guys to distract you if necessary!
Peace ❤
Jay
From a resource view I’ve found that ex-boyfriends that have remained friends were far more useful when after we broke up lol. Not too sure what that says…
Everyone needs time to feel, time to mourn the loss of things, and all that. For me I think the best thing after going through something like that is to watch a sarcastic movie or a really cheesy one to regain that sense of spirit I suppose.
There’s another tihng I look to a times like this is the amount of people in the world, there a billions, people exist that are merely slight modifications of the people you see everyday, this can be used optimisticly or pesimisticly though lol.
I don’t understand which ‘things were getting serious’..but it sounds like you guys ended in a good way, not involving those ugly dramas. I hope you can get through this well!
Sorry to read this, Andrew. These things are tough, especially for the reasons Duke gave you (aren’t relationships suposed to get serious at some point?), but well, his loss, I guess, there are plenty of guys out there who would be lucky to be with you.
For the time being focus on your swimming, sometimes heartbreaks work as fuel in sports, so, like you said, try to channel it all into the water. What matters right now is your meet, so don’t take your eyes off of that.
I think it’s great you both still want to be friends, I hope yo do. Anyways, onwards and upwards. Take care and give it all at your meets this week, Andrew!